Updated: Sep 23, 2020
Whether you are a female or male, you either have or are experiencing a lack of self-confidence when it comes to the bedroom. Here are 5 self-care tips to add to your routine to increase your sexual confidence.
By the time you've finished reading this blog, WAP by Cardi B. and Meghan Thee Stallion would be watched and criticized 100 times over. You know... THE BUMP!
Why is it criticized? Because even in a somewhat progressive era, we shy away from the actual conversation about sex and refuse to acknowledge the fact that women have those same needs too. What's that saying? It takes two to tango! Not having these open discussions however is exactly why women especially, don't experience sex or enjoy it in the same way that their partners do. Sexual Confidence: How to Find Yours states that " Out of all the things that affect our sexual satisfaction, the most important element is sexual confidence." I obviously agree but what does sexual confidence look like?
Kellie Scott in How to Feel Sexually Confident, Especially if You're Struggling With Body Image explains that" a sexually confident person knows how to set boundaries and accept those of others." Sexually confident individuals know themselves in and out which helps them express their sexual prowess. Contrary to those who aren't as sexually confident, those who are, are not afraid to let their partners know what they like both in and out of the bedroom. They understand that sex is not just about the other person but it's also about themselves. And you are always important and worthy of a great sexual experience.
A major plus to being sexually confident is your sexy presence naturally attracts others to you, more friends, admirers, and maybe even more job opportunities. Sexual confidence does not just help in the bedroom but can truly help you shine and radiate outside of it.
Ladies and gents! How do you become this sexual confident like the WAP rapper? Here are 5 self-care tips you can include in your routine today to get you there and get you there!
1. Mirror Work (The Naked Edition)
Empowerment coach and Astrologer, Natalie Benson, describes this practice as "a new-age type of practice where you meet your reflection in the mirror and send yourself loving self-affirmation, and even open up a conversation with yourself as if you're speaking with a dear friend." And now introducing the naked edition. No one is there just you and your mirror. Only concentrate on the things about yourself you love and block out the ones you don't like. You'll realize how many more parts of you, you love rather than hate. Remember that the way you speak to yourself matters, therefore be loving and gentle with her or him. She or He loves that.
2. Find out what you like and don't like
Kind of like the saying you can't love anyone until you love yourself (something like that), really it's the same thing with sex. Without figuring out what you like and don't like, you can't possibly expect your partner to get it right. Feel free to explore then report. ( Yes it rhymes, it's what I do.)
3. Have open conversations about sex
TALK ABOUT IT! I can't tell you the many times I've talked about something I'm going trough thinking no one would understand and not only do they do, oftentimes they even relate. We might be different but our experiences, especially as women, are almost always similar. No matter how embarrassing it may seem there's almost always someone with an even more embarrassing story. Grab the ladies and some wine and talk about it.
4. Have workout routine
You don't have to be skinny or thin to be sexually confident, at all. But being fit and physically active can definitely boost your sexual desires and instill sexual confidence. Whether it's your hips, butt, or abs, feeling yourself after you work them out will give you the Meghan confidence you need 2020 and beyond.
5. Get used to being uncomfortable
Here's a major key to life itself. It is uncomfortable sometimes but don't walk away from it, embrace it. Make a list of things that make you uncomfortable, especially outside of sex. Once you've accomplished those things, surely your sexual and personal confidence knows no limits. You can get ready to list these items by journaling, then take action.
If you can't talk about it, how can you possibly enjoy it? If you don't know yourself or don't give yourself the love you need, how can you expect others to? We practice self-care and self-love first so we may be open to receiving love.
Although there are classier ways to put it, WAP is an expression of the female sexual liberation by women who countless times have surprised us with feminist, entrepreneurial, academic, and political interests. In addition to being fine AF, they also exude sexual confidence mentally as well as physically. I mean THERE'S SOME QUEENS IN THIS HOUSE!
Have you seen the WAP video yet? What did you think? Would you say it is for or against feminist beliefs?